Upon rereading this, I realize that there is a wing of the feminist movement who will hate it, and claim that I’m trying to say that a woman doesn’t have the right to say no.
Nothing could be further from the truth. I absolutely believe that everybody – male or female – has the right to say no to any sexual or romantic activity that they do not wish to be a part of.
To put this blog post into context, let me remind you that it first appeared in an online forum intended for people in sexless marriages. These are situations where one partner is willing to have sex rarely or never – yet they still insist that their mate stay in the relationship and (usually) be monogamous.
Everybody does have a right to say no to sex. But when a married or long-term couple has a huge discrepancy in how often they want sex, this is going to cause huge problems in the relationship. If you exercise your right to say no frequently, and still expect your mate to be monogamous, you are not in a relationship; you are holding a hostage. At least, until your hostage either outsources or leaves you.