It has been nearly two years since I posted the original Top Ten post.
If you recall, it was a hypothetical situation: what if I was on the dating market, and I did a profile for an online dating site? I imagined a Top Ten list, of the type made famous by David Letterman, of reasons I would be a good girlfriend.
Of course, people change and grow all their lives; and I see that I’m no longer exactly the same person I was when I wrote the first post. With that in mind, here is an update.
Top 10 Reasons Why I’d Be a Good Girlfriend
10 – I don’t want to get married and have children. The reason for that is that I’m beyond the age where most people are starting a family. I would be okay with being the age I am, and having teenage kids or stepchildren. I am NOT up for being this age and coping with a new baby!
And the marriage part…well, I’ve been married and divorced once. After that happens, marriage loses its mystique. I have learned to be pretty content being single.
I’m not ruling out remarriage 100%. Never say never. But I’m fine with having a long-term boyfriend for the rest of my life.
This should be a point in my favor. Men don’t like women who are desperate to get married. Right? RIGHT?!
9 – I’m not looking for a meal ticket or a sugar daddy.
I work. I’ve always worked, since finishing school. I would no more be able to handle staying at home all the time than I could handle singing opera at the Met. I’d be a fish out of water.
Yes, I gripe about work. Everybody does. But I need that structure to my day. I also like having my own source of money that nobody else can touch. That way, if the man in my life should turn into a douchebag, I can end things without becoming homeless.
8 – I won’t get upset if you want to play or watch sports once or twice a week. I’ll just find something else to do. (More often than that and we might want to rethink this – that’s a lot of time apart.)
What has changed about #8 is that I like sports more than I used to. Yes – even though this was written not quite two years ago.
I became friendlier with some people, both online and IRL, who are into sports. Also, for the first time in my life, I now work at a place where they have a pool for the NCAA tournament and the coworkers get pretty excited about their brackets. I did it this year, and found I really enjoyed it and watched the games.
I still do not want to do sports-related stuff more than once or twice a week. The thing that’s different is that now, I will do sports-related stuff with you. Before, it was, “You go ahead, have a good time, I’ll find something else to do.”
7 – I want to have sex about twice a week. I place a high priority on romance, passion, and sex. And the journey is just as important as the destination.
This hasn’t changed [naughty grin.]
6 – I’ll never make you watch a chick flick with me. In fact, that’s my least favorite sort of movie.
Like #8, this is another area where my tastes have expanded. I still like mysteries, spy thrillers, and courtroom dramas best. But either chick flicks are getting better these days, or I’m getting softer with age. I just saw “Spy” with Melissa McCarthy, and it was a hoot! I’m looking forward to “Trainwreck,” which should be released soon. I saw the trailer for that, and immediately identified with the Amy Schumer character.
I liked “Baby Mama” and “Juno.” I liked “My Big Fat Greek Wedding.” I loved “Bend It Like Beckham” (although that may not technically qualify as a chick flick.)
The thing with me is that I like chick flicks if they’re funny. Do not try to get me to see a tearjerker!
5 – I’m an excellent listener. You can tell me (almost) anything and I won’t freak out. I’m very good at staying cool and helping people think things through.
4 – I can keep a secret forever if I have to.
3 – I can adapt to new environments and get along with most people.
2 – If you’re into music – contact me. Seriously. If the chemistry is there, I could be your girl. If not, we could still be good music buddies.
#5, #4, #3, and #2 are all still true. I haven’t changed THAT much.
1 – ????
And – I’m still looking for reason #1 why I would be a good girlfriend.